Living Well Connection (Part I)
I believe that one of the most (if not THE most) integral parts of a joyful, happy, fulfilling, whole life is a connection with others. It lets us know we are not alone, allows us to feel loved and love others, and gives us a place to belong. Unfortunately many of us are going through life without fully knowing the pleasure of true connection. We hide parts of ourselves so others cannot see. We feel shame and guilt for parts of our story and so we tuck it away so no one will know. By doing this no one really knows who we are. We lose the opportunity to have someone look at the full picture of who we are and love us unconditionally. We severe the chance at true connection, because we are so afraid of rejection that we do not show ourselves fully.
Then, we try to shine up the outside of who we are. We have the cleanest houses, we bake perfect cookies, we never miss an event for our children and ultimately, we strive to be perfect. You see the logic is if we are perfect, without a spot anyone can see, no one will or can reject us. Then we can deem ourselves worthy because others have. However, somehow love is less sweet when you realize that the people who love you really may not know who you truly are.
The conclusion that we must draw is that in order to be living well you must love fully, and connect fully, we must be willing to show who we are. Only when you embrace who you really are, complete with ugly spots and all, can you expect someone else to.
Continue reading Part II of the Living Well Connection.
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