Orlando Counseling with Julia Jancek

When I talk to clients about how to deal with emotional pain, sometimes they know right away what I am talking about, the pain of the death of a loved one, rejection from someone close, separation from family. Other times people will look at me blankly and say they don’t experience emotional pain, that nothing is “going on” in their life. But emotional pain can be so much more than the obvious. It can be that lingering shame that we are not good enough, the guilt of past … Continue Reading

We’ve all heard of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s five stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance.

Acceptance: this is the one many people struggle with.

I frequently hear things like “What am I accepting exactly?” and “I don’t want to accept that they’re gone.” So what is acceptance? And is acceptance really the “place” to get to in order to heal from your grief.

Most people think of approval when they hear the word acceptance. They think they need to become … Continue Reading

Learn a little more about myself and how I help my clients at Charis Counseling Center.

• How long have I been counseling?
• Why did I choose to be a counselor?
• What happens when I first meet with a client?
• What’s the process of counseling?

I sat across from a client recently who was trying to “convince” me that there was something wrong with her, something that she was not doing correctly.

The client had lost her sister suddenly in an accident over a year ago. She still picks up the phone to call her sister, still gets angry when she realizes her sister will not be there for a quick joke or recipe help, and still cries when … Continue Reading

Premarital counseling is a good thing!

It is designed to help identify your strengths and develop relational skills that will help form a solid foundation for your marriage. The Prepare-Enrich assessment is one of the most personalized in depth assessments you can take to aid in your premarital counseling. While it is a fantastic tool that creates an outline that will guide future sessions, I get a lot of different responses from people … Continue Reading

I’m about to tell you something people never expect to hear from a counselor…

Your feelings are not to be trusted!

Many times feelings are impostors, and trusting your feelings and acting upon them could end up sabotaging relationships, marriages, and even life. I hear it all the time in my office, “I’m not happy”, “I don’t love him anymore”, “I am so angry at…”, “I feel like…(insert mildly destructive behavior here)”.

Often when we get a feeling, we run with it, and allow … Continue Reading

Do it today, and save yourself anxiety tomorrow!

In a previous blog I mentioned that you can help lower your general anxiety by not procrastinating (4 Things You Can Do Right Now to Lower Anxiety). After thinking about it I decided to give the issue a little more attention.

See I have this friend, and as we were getting to know each other I realized that if there was something stressful or difficult she had to do, she would do it immediately. I was with … Continue Reading

I’m often asked how can family and friends help someone who is struggling with depression. Its hard to watch the people we love struggle to cope, to simply make it through the day. The most important thing for family and friends to remember is that they cannot give themselves the responsibility of “fixing” or “saving” their loved one.

So, how can you tell the difference between helping and over-helping? Helping a depressed love one is … Continue Reading

Have you ever had one of those days where something seems to be gnawing at you all day? You can’t focus, your brain keeps drifting, and you wonder if you have yet to utter an intelligent statement. Or what about those day’s when you haven’t slept well the night before and you feel like you’re playing catch up all day long.

While we may not suffer from an anxiety disorder, most of us experience anxiety from time to time. … Continue Reading

We all know what the Holiday’s are supposed to be about; the birth of Jesus, family, friends, giving, and of course good food. However, by about December 10th (or even sooner) the stress of the season can overshadow all of this.

We can become consumed with buying the “right” gift, throwing the “right” party, and of course attending everyone’s Christmas, brunch, lunch, dinner, or party. We lose ourselves and come January 1 we’re exhausted, and oftentimes, miserable. … Continue Reading